A while back my life brought me to the need to seek the relationship that was right for me. I decided that l needed to take a different approach in finding "Mr Right".
I took several steps, one was I defined what that special relationship would mean to me. What attributes would be important. My first thing to discard was the physical attributes. I decided that physical attributes would be very low on the list of requirements that needed to be met. Finances was not really important either as I had been providing for my self and my three children for many years. So I was fairly self sufficient. Did he need to be handy around the house? Well I could use someone to hold a ladder for me every once and while. Or hand me the light bulb once I was up on the ladder. However being the daughter of an electrical engineer and a self styled Jack of all Trades did have its good points. I either knew how to do maintenance or who to call both very important. So he did not need to be a handyman. Yard work that was hmmm okay, mowing the grass, raking the leaves that was a who to call thing. Planting flowers and having a herb and vegetable garden that was a me thing. Love working with growing things.
Ok now what was I really looking for then? Companionship, Friendship a lover maybe but those are all “physical” needs that are important and no that was not really what I was looking for. I knew after years of relationship counseling that that is part of the package when you have the “one” in your life.
Ok since I have thrown all that out the window I can see head scratching and the question of what is she looking for then.
I was seeking the soul connection, the soul that belongs next to mine. I was willing to wait for as long as it took for that to come along. I obviously have had the other less fulfilling relationships. I already knew that when I found that person or they found me that if I was holding on to all those “physical” requirements they would override the soul connection that was there.
How important is the soul connection to me, very important. More important than anything else that he brings to the relationship it overrides the need for him to be dashingly handsome, to have lots of money, to own any thing, he doesn’t even have to be able to chase me around the sofa. It is the very foundation that the special relationship that I seek is built upon and there are no substitutes for the soul connection.
My friends have asked so what if this really rich handsome guy came along would the soul connection matter? My answer to that is if the soul connection is not there I would probably not even notice him. That soul connection is important because it allows one to see past the physical issues that might otherwise cause you to pause before reaching out to someone. It overrides the need for the person to be physically perfect, financially well off or any of the others things that we usually make so important in a relationship. It allows you to by pass that to accept the love that is perfect even if the vessel that it flows from is not.
The soul connection for me is one that makes me smile just because he is there. He doesn’t have to “do” anything for that smile he doesn’t have to shower me with gifts to get that smile. He just has to be. The thing about that soul connection is that it can not be faked. If it is real your “relationship” can weather anything. It will survive and thrive even among things that are considered deal breakers relationship wise. You don’t need to be glued to each others hip for it to work. Even when you are apart you still “feel” that person. Even when you are alone you aren’t lonely.
As I write this I know that it raises more question than it answers. But with a soul connection you will know when you find the “one”. Don’t worry if you have a few false starts believe me if what you are really seeking is the “one” person who belongs to your soul you will find that person, you only need to persevere. Yes there may be subtle indications that the person exist. Your soul may direct you to the place where you can meet that person. Don’t worry if you get side tracked. That doesn’t mean they don’t exist, it doesn’t mean they are not where you were initially told to look. It could mean you overlooked them for a flashy “package” that was not what you were seeking. In that case keep open to the soul connection it will find you, better yet you will find it.
We come to love
not by finding a perfect person
but by learning to see
an imperfect person perfectly." ...Anonymous
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